Radical Self-Care: Living Loud, Living Well

Living in a world that glorifies quick fixes can make self-care feel like a spa day, a bubble bath, or a luxurious nap. But let’s be honest: these fleeting indulgences don’t erase the underlying chaos of modern life. They’re temporary band-aids, not permanent solutions—and while a lavender-scented soak may soothe, it’s not going to cancel the three back-to-back meetings on Monday.

At Queen of To Do, we’re flipping the script. Self-care isn’t a product, a service, or an aesthetic. It’s a rebellion, an unapologetic refusal to settle for burnout. Welcome to radical self-care—a practice that’s loud, proud, and completely on your terms.

The Myth of the Bubble Bath Cure  

Candles? Lit. The book you’ve been meaning to read? Ready. Bath bomb? Fizzing away. You sink into the tub, determined to finally relax—only to realize this picture-perfect moment has become its own chore.

Sure, a bubble bath or spa day feels nice in the moment, but let’s call them what they are: snacks for your soul, not a full-course meal. Here’s why they don’t fill you up:

• Short-Lived Relief: The bliss fades faster than your tea cools when your phone buzzes with a new deadline.
• Surface-Level Solutions: Bubble baths can’t build boundaries, and naps don’t nix toxic work environments.

It’s not that these practices are bad. They’re just incomplete. In a world where everything is urgent, self-care that barely scratches the surface doesn’t cut it.

What Radical Self-Care Looks Like

Radical self-care isn’t about escaping life—it’s about redesigning it. It’s messy, bold, and deeply personal. It’s saying, “I deserve better” and creating systems that support that belief. Here’s how it stands out:

• Boundary Setting: The art of saying “no” without apologizing. Radical, right? BTW, we talk more about this (www.queenoftodo.com/blog/the-art-of-saying-no).
• Prioritizing Rest: Not just a nap here and there, but regular, restorative rest that becomes sacred.
• Building a Squad: Therapists, coaches, community—support is self-care, too.
• Getting Real About Stress: Identifying and tackling the true culprits behind your overwhelm.

Radical self-care is permission to put yourself first—not just on Sundays but every day. It’s a rejection of the grind culture that makes “busy” a badge of honor.

Why the Old Rules Don't Work

Quick fixes like color-coded planners or productivity apps often fall short because they ignore the human side of chaos. Life doesn’t happen in neat rows or on perfectly timed schedules. Here’s what they miss:

• Rigidity: Too-strict systems feel suffocating when life throws curveballs.
• Decision Fatigue: Complex solutions add stress instead of relieving it. As a client states "Decision fatigue is real, y'all!"
• Perfectionism Paralysis: Obsessing over the “perfect” system stops you from just starting.

Radical self-care is about breaking those rules. It’s about showing up for yourself in the way you need to, not the way Instagram says you should—or the three annual planners gathering dust on your shelf guilt you into thinking you should.

How to Get Radical

Here’s the fun part: radical self-care doesn’t look the same for everyone. Maybe it’s finally booking that weekly therapy session. Maybe it’s outsourcing the meal prep you dread or blocking off a Saturday to do absolutely nothing.

It’s not about what you should do. It’s about what feels right for you.

And no, radical self-care isn’t always glamorous. Sometimes it’s as simple (and as unglamorous) as finally tackling the cluttered junk drawer or scheduling a doctor’s appointment you’ve been putting off.

Unwind on

Massages and spa days? Amazing. But they’re the cherry on top of the self-care sundae, not the whole dessert. Radical self-care is about digging into the delicious, messy layers of life and making them work for you.

At Queen of To Do, we’re here to help you create a life that’s more than manageable—it’s meaningful. Whether it’s setting up sustainable systems or simply helping you reclaim your time, we’ve got your back.

Radical self-care is a revolution. And you? You’re leading the charge. Ready to get started? Click here.